Posted on Apr 01,2022
Psychological Studies That Need Every Parents Attention
Becoming a parent is one heck of an emotional roller coaster ride in one sentence. Right from conceiving to the last breath of becoming a parent one gets so absorbed with the role of parenting that sometimes couples give great stress on whether they want a baby or not. Further, this quest give rise to the popular question that whether non-parent is happier than parents and many such debates over parenting. Here in this article we will give pick some of the interesting studies done on parenting complied by Psychological Today and Spring, that will definitely blow your mind.
- Thinking of your child as first priority is worth it
Child-centric attitudes are helpful, according to a study, which emphasizes the joys of having children. According to research by Ashton-James et al. (2013), parents who were most child-centred were also happier and drew higher meaning from having children. Taking part in child-care activities was linked to a higher sense of significance and less negative sentiments.
“These findings suggest that the more care and attention people give to others, the more happiness and meaning they experience. From this perspective, the more invested parents are in their children’s well-being — that is, the more ‘child centric’ parents are — the more happiness and meaning they will derive from parenting.” (Ashton-James et al., 2013)
- Helicopter parenting is the route to depression
However, like with many things in life, there is a delicate line to be drawn between caring and smothering, particularly when children have grown up. 297 undergraduate students were polled by Schiffrin et al. (2013) on their parents' behaviour and how they felt about it. The study discovered a relationship between "helicopter parenting" and greater levels of depression, as well as poorer levels of autonomy, relatedness, and competence among the pupils.
“Parents should keep in mind how developmentally appropriate their involvement is and learn to adjust their parenting style when their children feel that they are hovering too closely.” (Schiffrin et al., 2013)
- Make your kids do exercise if you want to boost their performance at school
Kids are becoming increasingly sedentary, and as I regularly write on PsyBlog, exercise is a fantastic method to increase brain capacity, among other things (see 20 Wonderful Effects Exercise Has on the Mind).
According to new research on 11-year-olds, moderate to intense exercise is linked to improved scholastic achievement in English, Math, and Science (Booth et al., 2013). Exercise-related improvements were also found in 16-year-old examinations. Surprisingly, additional exercise had the greatest impact on girls' science grades.
- Harmony is the key
In parent-child relationships, sensitivity is critical. The dynamic and intricate patterns of sensitive mutual understandings and interactions between children and their parents are involved. Correspondences in biological, emotional, cognitive, and behavioural dimensions describe attunement. “When interactions with caregivers fall out of attunement by becoming mistimed or mismatched, both children and parents suffer pain," says Dr Bornstein.
- Avoid strict regulation
Around 90% of parents agree to employ harsh verbal discipline with their children, such as calling their children names or cursing at them. However, rather than assisting in keeping teenagers in line, be mindful that this may worsen the situation.
In a study of 967 households, harsh verbal discipline at the age of 13 was linked to worse behaviour the following year (Wang et al., 2013). It didn't help if the parents had a close relationship with their children.
“The notion that harsh discipline is without consequence, once there is a strong parent-child bond–that the adolescent will understand that ‘they’re doing this because they love me’–is misguided because parents’ warmth didn’t lessen the effects of harsh verbal discipline. Indeed, harsh verbal discipline appears to be detrimental in all circumstances.” (Wang et al., 2013)
- Stress can break it all
Stress is common and may manifest itself in a variety of ways, all of which can have an impact on the quality of parent-child interactions. Parenting-related stress (difficult kid behaviour and parenting duties) may be more significant than the impact of regular life stress on the family.
- Let’s sort the debate! Parents are happier than non-parents
Some recent research has suggested that the benefits of having children outweigh the drawbacks.
According to new research, parents feel better on average each day than non-parents and get more joy from caring for their children than from other hobbies (Nelson et al., 2013). Fathers, in particular, receive a lot of satisfaction and pleasant feelings from their children.
- Emotion, in all of its forms, is crucial to the growth and trajectory of parent-child interactions.
It's a two-way street, with parental emotions influencing kid growth and behaviour and child development and behaviour influencing parental emotions. Emotion regulation is especially important in parent-child relationships, as a model for parents, and as a basic developmental competency for children.
What can you do to strengthen your bond with your kids?
As mentioned above were some of the recent studies that have unfolded many aspects of parenting, yet good parenting depends on your own definition as per the culture and social backdrop you belong to. To balance the article more, we are stating a few points that you can consider to be a good parent. Beyond any research what matters the most is your bond with your children.
● Be the ideal you want your children to follow or become like
First and foremost, your children will observe and learn from everything you do, even if they are very small. You are their primary point of contact with the outside world, and how you react and respond to certain events might have an impact on how your children react to similar situations. Try to lead by example and model the kind of good behaviour and attitude you want to see in your children.
● Explain the bad behaviour along with discipline it
As mom and dad, we will come across behaviour that necessitates some sort of discipline. When issuing a time-out, make sure your child understands how their terrible behaviour affected the others around them. Empathy for others is one of the most effective methods to instil moral values in youngsters. When people realize that one of their behaviours has caused grief or injury to someone they care about, they are less likely to repeat it.
● Praise your child more than their actions
Don't simply celebrate the activity when your child achieves something that makes you proud; celebrate your child. If you witness your youngster helping someone, say something like, "Wow, that's awesome!" Instead of saying, "Wow, you're a great helper!" say, "You're a great helper!" This small shift in appreciation will educate your youngster that doing a nice deed is a part of who he or she is. When you aren't around and they need to make a comparable decision, they may remember who they are rather than what they did and make the best decision.
● Make them learn values not rules
Setting limits for our children is essential, but if we focus on setting household rules rather than teaching our children the meaning of right and wrong, they may begin to search for methods to get around the rules rather than understanding why they exist in the first place. Consider going beyond the "This is my house, and these are my rules!" mindset and teaching your children the fundamental life concepts you hold dear. When children understand why the rule you've established must be obeyed, it's a lot simpler to hold them accountable.
By following these simple tips, you can form a good connection with your kids and help them have a protected environment at home, regardless of their age.
Bonus research: Siblings are so different?
Siblings are only as similar to each other as children growing up across town or even across the nation, despite the fact that they are on average 50% genetically identical, are typically reared in the same home by the same parents, attend the same schools, and have many other shared experiences. What makes them unique is the question.
Plomin and Daniels (1987) found that siblings had no more in common in terms of personality than two fully unrelated strangers.
Given that 50% of their genetic code is similar, this is strange. The solution lies in the environment in which children grow up, not in their DNA. Each child has a distinct relationship with their parents, a different relationship with their other siblings, different friends, and various experiences at school, among other things.
And all of these variances add up to significant disparities between siblings–often to the point where you wouldn't know they were related if they didn't look alike. All of this implies that, because their personalities are typically so dissimilar, parenting techniques that work for one child may not work for the next.
As stated earlier, parenting is not at all an easy path to walk on. You will experience a plethora of experiences from feeling happy to being on cloud nine. Moreover, we hope with the compilation of these studies’ new parents or parents, in general, have got a good understanding of what they precisely can do for the better upbringing of their children. If you find the article interesting and full of knowledge, don’t forget to share it with your friends and family.