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The story of Empaths and narcissists


The story of Empaths and Narcissists


Note:- Pardon us if any of the mentioned incidents triggered you. Our only focus is to depict the reality of society and how we can educate our fellow citizens on these topics.


Who are empaths?


Do you often feel keenly aware of the emotions of those around you? Do crowds make you feel uneasy? Do you think of yourself (or those closest to you) as a sensitive person?

If you answered yes, you might be an empath.

Empaths are people who, like "emotional sponges," absorb the world's joys and frustrations.

 According to the author of "The Empath's Survival Guide: Life Strategies for Sensitive People," empaths are those who lack the filters that most people use to shield themselves from overwhelming stimulation and can't help but absorb the emotions and energies around them, whether good, terrible or somewhere in between.


The dark side of empaths


The dark side of being an empath is represented by two competing forces that dwell in the soul of an empath. Empaths are always aware of both the positive and negative aspects of life. there exists the negative and positive in the heart of an empath. And empaths are frequently overwhelmed by one or both of these factors. That's the reason these folks are considerably more sensitive to life's negatives.


An empath's life is a perpetual struggle between melancholy, darkness, and goodness. Their tragic side, on the other hand, would always overpower them and drive them to self-destruction. Understanding how to discriminate between their sensations and the energies that overwhelm them is the greatest approach for an empath to win this war. So, if an empath wants to change their life then they should pay attention to their inner conflict and should start prioritising their feelings.



Who are narcissists? 


Narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a mental disease in which persons have an exaggerated sense of their own importance, a deep need for excessive attention and admiration, difficult relationships, and a lack of empathy for others. It is one of several forms of personality disorders. But beneath this confidence hides fragile self-esteem that is easily shattered by the least criticism. A narcissistic personality disorder person can find issues in a variety of aspects of life, including relationships, employment, school, and finances. When they aren't offered the particular privileges or admiration they believe they deserve, they turn sad and disappointed.




Narcissists and empath relationships



 Narcissists are drawn to persons who will benefit them the most. This frequently entails pursuing empaths. Narcissists are the polar opposite of empaths. Empaths are very sensitive and in tune with other people's feelings, whereas persons with narcissistic personality disorder have no empathy and live on the desire for adulation.

Empaths are "emotional sponges" who can easily absorb the sentiments of others. This appeals to narcissists because they envision someone who will provide for their every need selflessly.


If you haven’t watched the Turkish series Masumiyat and you are someone dealing with the same issues then you should watch this show, the show moves around the toxic traits of narcissism and how a person with the toxic mindset can even choose the path of violence, I’m not going to give you the spoilers, but we must know how these people work,  the series started with the person thrown out of the red car, the person is the victim and she got traumatised with red cars, and you will see the person with toxic traits putting that victim into the same position and the suffering was enjoyed by the narcissists. That’s how their mind works. They are the one who find joy in people's suffering.


It all starts with a fictitious romance. The love of an empath is profound and unconditional. On the other hand, the narcissist has no intention of forming a genuine bond with the empath. When the empath is around the narcissist, they are pleased and satisfied, and they mistakenly believe that their love is reciprocated.


Often, a narcissist and an empath have a one-sided relationship in which one is the giver, and the other takes as much as they can, leaving the other empty. The empath in the relationship wants to help the other and provide a source of support and affection to the narcissist, who feeds on this type of attention, this relationship is similar to a parasitic relationship.

Because of the narcissist's manipulative and selfish traits, they end up driving the relationship and exerting control over the empath.


As a relationship progresses, the narcissist will attempt to undermine the empath's self-esteem by making them feel weak and incapable of even the most basic tasks. The narcissist will never directly attack the empath; instead, they will try to smuggle comments into the conversation and then "accidentally" bring up some "weakness" in the empath. They will seize complete control of the relationship and begin making all of the decisions. The empath would progressively start believing that they are powerless and that they are fortunate to have the narcissist in their life.


We've returned to where we started. The narcissist will become the only center of the empath's existence. They will make every effort to assist, care for, cheer up, and soothe the narcissist. They will always be there for the narcissist whenever he or she requires assistance. Because empaths are natural givers, the narcissist will try to portray themselves as the victim in order to manipulate the empath into giving them what they want. This brings us to the next segment i.e do narcissists can take criticisms positively.


How narcissist reacts to the criticism


They have a tendency to see criticism where none exists. They virtually always have a sense of who is the dominating person when they interact.   They believe they are being humiliated if they are not treated better than others.

They have an uncanny ability to identify winners and losers in every scenario. To a narcissist, being treated like an ordinary person is an insult. As a result, criticising them is like declaring open war on the narcissist.


The Narc regards any criticism as a threat. When presented with criticism, a Narc is absolutely incapable of emotional stability or reasonable doesn't even matter if the criticism is constructive. It's a threat to them, and they'll answer in kind, much like the Narc. They will grow irritated nine times out of ten. They lash out with a barrage of verbal abuse and irrational rage. They'll immediately start blaming the one who is criticising them.

Narc is unable to control their emotions or govern themselves in any way, which can result in violent and often dangerous outbursts.


Are they ready to change?


Unfortunately, there is no easy “yes” or “no” response to this question, and the answer may vary depending on where this person lies on the narcissistic spectrum. According to legends, The greatest hurdle to a narcissist's success is their own narcissism.


While there is no one-size-fits-all treatment for narcissistic personality disorder, therapy with an experienced mental health professional can help a narcissist reflect on their feelings, learn about their background, and build new coping strategies.


If you've ever tried to figure out if someone you know is a narcissist, you've definitely come across a lot of publications that claim narcissists are born wicked and incapable of reform.

However, these assumptions do not do justice to the complexity of narcissism. The truth is that everyone has the ability to change. It's only that many narcissists lack the motivation to change. Since the beginning of their condition, they believe that they are the one who dominates the world and they cannot be wrong in any way. 


The greatest impediment to a narcissist's success is usually their own narcissism. Narcissists must be driven to change, and many aren't because they can't recognise or don't care that they have a problem. They may not feel obliged to seek therapy until they have had a big personal catastrophe, such as a failure at work, the loss of a significant relationship, or another very humbling incident.

Even if a narcissist makes it into therapy, keeping them dedicated to the hard work that real and lasting transformation necessitates can be a mammoth challenge, as many would sooner quit as taking guidance might hurt their toxic ego. Small changes in their behaviour and emotional outlook may lead to significant, long-term transformation if they are interested in the process and persist with it. When motivated, people with narcissism can also develop increased empathy, particularly when taking on the perspective of someone they see as similar to them, or when examining the feelings of their children or others who idealise or appreciate them.

Someone who expresses care or affection for select persons may be ready to take the next step.


However,  the narcissist desires to feel powerful and perfect, they will seek an empath who will admire them and satisfy their wishes. However, no matter how happy the empath makes the narcissist, the narcissist will never ever fall in love with them because they are afraid of falling in love. Relationships are one-sided for them. It's all about them and what they require. It's all about making them feel special and significant.